life always moves in duality.
life is a balanced movement between two opposites.
day is balanced by night.
birth is balanced with death so that the soul can rest and recharge itself.
similarly, negativity is balanced by positivity in life.
so if there is a negative moment in your life then god must have opened a positive door for you too.
but it usually happens that you are so much focused on negative that you miss to see the positive part.
many times a negative moment is blessing in disguise.
bad time gives you a chance to learn so many things.
so learn to see the positive side of things:
1. don’t sulk… instead accept the situation
one of the most important step in dealing with a negative situation
is to accept the situation totally and not making effort to escape from it.
understand that the negative situation is either because of your karma
or to teach you something important in life.
so no need to be pissed off and instead put your energies in facing the situation gracefully.
2. find the positive – after accepting the situation,
the second step is to look carefully at the problem and find the positive in it.
positive is bound to be there too. because every event carries the opposite within.
you can never be in a totally negative situation or in a totality positive situation.
life always maintain balance.
find the positive and make use of it. it requires creativity or out of box thinking.
e.g. there is a popular saying, if life throws a lemon at you then make a lemonade 🙂
its important to think creatively to make use of negative situation for your good.
if life closes one door then it will always open a new door for you. look for it.
i know one person who was advised bed rest for 6 months
he started learning blogging from his bed.
and now he is one of the top tech blogger from india
see how he turned his adversity into a blessing.
3. from every mistake you can learn something and become more mature.
and the wise person does not commit the same mistake twice.
you don’t need to learn only from your mistake
as you can learn from other people mistake too.
just be observant in life and there is a lot to learn from everybody.
4. think out of the box – mind can not think anything new.
for some new or creative idea to come in your mind, you need to give rest to mind.
that is to go into no-mind space, then only you can have flashes of intuition.
so spend time alone in nature, beach side or in solitude.
don’t think too much… instead try to be in the present moment.
always be open to new ideas. be creative with your energies.
bonus tip: my personal experience is that once you start taking responsibility for the situation you are in…
then you automatically make effort to come out of it and become mature and more responsible person.
on the other hand, if you sulk or throw responsibility at someone else
then you are making your problem bigger and also not becoming mature.
so better to put the energy in solving the problem and also to learn from it.