As far as mental and emotional health is concerned, women fare much better than men. You will see more men committing suicide than women.
There are few reasons why women are emotionally more stronger than men. One of the reason is they take joy in small things of life and thus they get more moments of happiness and satisfaction. Another reason is their ability to cry. Whenever they are overburdened with pain or suffering, they cry spontaneously and they feel better afterwards. On the other hand, men are taught from the childhood to be tough. They are taught that as a man they should not cry.
If men does not stop his tears and is able to cry like women, then they will be more emotionally strong.
How tears are good for emotional health:
1. Crying helps in releasing the emotions
Whenever you cry, you feel less burdened. Because with your tears, your pain and grief also goes away. You become unburdened with them. It gives a space and opening to release your emotions. Otherwise they will keep on troubling you consciously or unconsciously. Tears are nature mechanism to release unwanted emotions from your system. So don’t stop them. Its a natural cleansing mechanism inbuilt inside you to keep you emotionally healthy.
2. Keep you soft and open from within
If you suppress your hurt emotions then it will keep on growing within you and will make you a hard person from within. Crying not only helps in releasing the unwanted emotions but it also keeps you soft and more human from within. It is human to feel weak and vulnerable. It is human to make mistakes and it is human to cry. So if you want to remain childlike then learn to laugh, learn to cry and learn to forgive yourself and others. Live life moment to moment. Live spontaneously and be childlike. When laughter is over powering then laugh, when tears are coming then let them flow. Never store pain, trauma or grief inside you. It will burden your heart. Be light hearted from within.
3. Tears makes your eyes beautiful and also gives you a fresh perspective
Whenever you are in tune with nature then you always look beautiful and full of grace. In case of crying, tears always makes your eyes look more clean, innocent, fresh and full of sparkle. It also gives you a new vision or prospective towards the situation. After unburdening yourself, you can have a fresh look at the issue. The eyes of small children are very beautiful because they live moment to moment and they don’t suppress any emotions. They are total in their laughter as well as in their tears. So never suppress your emotions, your tears or laughter or anything. Deal with them in a positive way. Its better to transform your energies instead of suppressing them. So release the negative emotions via crying so that you can deal with the situation in a better way.
As far as crying is concerned, it is perfectly alright for men to cry. It is part of human nature to cry. If you cry then its normal and absolutely fine. On the other hand, if you are not able to cry then something is abnormal and you are coming in between the way of natures working.
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